University studies have proven that, all other things being equal, women prefer funny men over any other type. This should make sense, as most people want to relax and have fun on a date, rather than have an intellectual discussion about heavy stuff.
However, if you just act like the class clown, you come across as goofy or immature, or just trying too hard.
If you are trying to get a girl, you must never act desperate or needy, or that you care too much about her opinion of you; if you do, it makes you look insecure, and many women find that to be a turn-off.
This is where the cocky part comes in. Instead of complementing a pretty girl, or otherwise kissing up to her (which is what ALL the other guys do -- it's predictable %26amp; is boring), try making a joke at her expense instead. Make fun of her in a good natured way - tease her a little, like she's your little sister. Save the complements for later, after you really get to know her. This is unpredictable, unexpected, and (if your joke %26amp; delivery are good), makes you entertaining.
You have to actually be funny, though. If you are just insulting, you just look like a jealous loser, and once again you have turned her off. You need to balance the two. You have to act funny, while conveying an air of indifference.
By acting indifferent to her opinion of you, you have set yourself apart by making yourself a challenge, which is usually the edge that bad boys have. A word of caution, though, be careful when using this on average girls, or girls that have image problems, as it may backfire. As a rule of thumb, never make fun of something that a girl cannot easily change, like her weight, or her attractiveness. Make fun of her behavior, or her clothes, [or her hobbies, or her barbie bag,] or something that she can actually change.
Want some examples? Here is the classic cocky %26amp; funny bad boy:
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If someone gets upset with your jokes, just look them in the eye and say, "I was only kidding", or, "It was only a joke, lighten up!". Do not over appologize. It makes you look weak if you do, and it is her fault if she cannot take a joke.
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The easiest way to become good with women is to hang out with guys who are already good with women, and see what they do.
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Don't bring her any flowers or buy her any gifts at first (at least nothing expensive), and don't act like you care too much. The goal is not to try to be cheap, but not to give the impression that you want her more than she wants you.
Nice guys try too hard to impress the girl, and it comes across as needy or desperate, or just too try hard. One of the secrets of the bad boys is that they never really try too hard, as they don't seem to care all that much. You cen bring her flowers and expensive gifts later, after you've been dating awhile.|||Good luck, bad boy!
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|||I think sexy homer answered your question but i feel like adding some stuff.
Try change the way you dress, dress the way that players and most of guys that get women dress, talk to everybody not just to girls. In order to be good at something you have to practise, dealing with women is not an exception, get the habit of approaching a women everyday and when talking to them be friendly but also try show that you have a bad side on you. Specially if you look really soft but try look really confident and try show a bad side, otherwise it will be hard for you to get them. Also look at your voice, tone, accent, everything play a part in getting a women. Life is theater, good actors are usually successful.
But yeah i guess looking and acting cool is something that comes (half) natural, i dont know if you will get the message.|||In addition to what everyone else said, don't go overboard with the "cocky %26amp; funny" part. It is easily overdone.
Becoming good with people is a skill that takes time %26amp; practice to get it right. Becoming a more outgoing person overall, by talking to people more, makes you a better conversationalist. For example, when you are at the burger joint or the 7-11 getting a soda, after you've ordered, ask the cashier how his or her day went (use some common sense, however; don't be chatty if the line is long). This makes the other person's day (a good deed), and it gets you used to the idea of approaching %26amp; talking to strangers, which makes you more self-confident overall.
And don't worry so much about rejection. If a person doesn't want to talk to you, it is HER loss, because she missed out on getting to know someone as nice and kind as you. Move on to the next person as if it didn't matter, because it doesn't. If she was rude to you, then it probably has nothing to do with you, so don't take it personally. If you must say something, just say, "I'm sorry that you have such low self-esteem that you need to be rude to random people for no reason", and then just walk away knowing that her bad mood is her problem, not yours. Rejection is actually a time saver, because you didn't want to waste your time dating a crazy person anyway.
But think positive. if you approach people thinking that they have every reason to like you, and no reason not to, then you will give off a positive, relaxed vibe that is contagious.|||You understand that being a badboy only works if you're high status right?
If you're just an average guy and you try acting like an @sshole it's not going to get you anywhere.
That means you'll need to become the dominant member of your social group so that those around will put up with your bad behaviour. This will signal your dominance and status to females. I'm guessing if it was within your power to gain this kind of social dominance you wouldn't be asking this question though right?|||You can be a man of action and not be a @$$hole and still get plenty of chicks.
Learn a glamorous skill. Guitar for instance. Keith richards looks like a corpse, but I bet he still get plenty of talent coming his way.
EDIT: The fact that you are crying like a girl on the internet might have somethingt to do with you problem. If you walk around thinking that you suck, women will pick up on it. Do something that gives you a boost in esteem and selfesteem.|||Bad boys get girls
Nice guys get girls too
Mediocre guys don't.
Both bad and nice guys are assertive, on various levels, mediocre guys aren't. I'm sorry, nice guys don't finish last, they become CEO and leaders of companies, mediocre guys are the one who keep complaining why 'nice guys' don't get anywhere with chicks.|||Easy. Just think for yourself and let your brain do the rest of the work. Men who have a mind of their own, and who don't bend-over-backwards to appease women are the people who are actually challenging to women. If you can't take up the challenge, BECOME the challenge. The rewards..err..the women will then be well worth it.|||first a pair of leather chaps, then get a moped. The moped says i'm safely dangerous. Next grow a thick set of manly side-burns, it's feels soft on their thighs if ya know what I mean heh heh heh. Last, a pair of cowboy boots go really far in exerting your alpha maleness.|||Well this doesn't sound like a good idea. Think for a minute about the kind of woman you will be attracting if you start being a jerk. Are you so desperate that you'd rather be with losers than nobody at all?|||Move to Nevada or Amsterdam and stump up the $ if you're not getting any.
EDIT: Won't be a popular answer (what's wrong with whores?) but I agree with the first guy. You're a f.a.g and that needs to change.|||hero?|||Easy. Get off the computer and learn to live a little -- like me!|||Give off the appearance of self-confidence, and you will relate to people better. Stand up straight, hold your head up, look people in the eye, and make sure that you smile.
If you accidentally make eye contact with a pretty girl, do NOT do what most guys do; do NOT immediately look away as if you've been caught doing something wrong (makes you look suspicious, or like a coward). Keep looking her in the eye until SHE looks away first, or at least as long as you can stand it. Then don't look at her again until you are ready to speak to her. Do not keep staring at her when you think that she isn’t looking (she sees you from the corner of her eye). Look at her once, make eye contact, and then ignore her until you are ready to walk over immediately and speak to her. If you keep looking at her, or worse, follow her around without saying anything, this creeps her out, and seems like stalking.
And when you are talking to someone, do NOT look down like most shy guys do (she will assume that you are looking at her breast, and she will get offended). Look her in the eye (or at the bridge of her nose, or her ear), while talking to her. If you are not looking her in the eye, then she assumes that you aren’t paying her any attention (and you are not -- you can read a person better if you look at their face), and she will get offended. If you must break eye contact because you are getting nervous, try looking away horizontally as if looking around the room; do NOT look down at her body even if innocent (she will assume the worst).
I know that this seems nit-picky, but women notice these little non-verbal clues (this is what we mean when we say that women are intuitive). So, stand up straight, look people in the eye, and SMILE. Give a firm handshake, but don’t crush their hand. And learn to tell funny (true) stories about stuff that you have done, or things that you have seen, or hobbies that you have had. If you have nothing else to do right now, think about things that you could talk about, and write down a rough outline so that you don’t forget. Don’t worry about it seeming to be a little artificial; better to have something to talk about already in your head, then to draw a blank and get tongue tied and nervous around a pretty girl when the time comes. Women like to hear stories about yourself, because not only is it entertaining, but it lets her know what kind of person that you are, and what you like to do, so it makes her feel like she knows you. You shouldn’t do all of the talking; asking her questions about herself that cannot be answered with a simple “yes” or “no” response is good (think ahead about what you might ask -- nothing too personal), and the occasional silent pause is OK also (silence is only “awkward” if you act awkward). You should seem relaxed and at ease no matter how the conversation goes.
If you are relaxed, happy, telling jokes %26amp; funny stories and having a good time, then you will make the other people that you are talking to have a good time also. Ditto if you are nervous and uptight around other people.
Also, when you are at a party, don't just stand around doing nothing. Try to socialize and talk to various people of either sex. It makes you look like a fun, social person. Work your way around the room, by talking to different people, and work your way around to the pretty girls eventually. As a rule of thumb, don't go to her directly (too obvious), but instead talk to other people first and work your way around to her, so she is not sure if you are interested in her or not. And never walk around checking out the girls but not speaking to anyone; this makes it look like you are after only one thing.
One other thing, when you ask a girl out, try to have an idea as to where you would like to go. As I told you in another question, often nice guys overdo the "nice" part in a vain attempt to pleas the woman, and come off as weak, desperate, or manipulative. For example, women hate it when a guy has no ideas of where to go on a date, but always asks the girl, "IDK, Where do you want to go?" She sees this as a lack of leadership, not as kindness (read some of the girl's questions on here to see what I mean). So don't ask a girl out unless you have an idea as to where you would like to go already.
Good luck, tiger!|||See, the funny thing that you'll learn is that the LESS you try, the MORE success you'll get. Don't try that cute romantic crap. It'll only turn out for the worst. Don't spend too much money on her. If she asks you for something, make her work for it. This raises your value because it seems like the reward is greater when the difficulty is higher, right? It's amazing how easy life can be. Just stop trying period. Ask her if she has a boyfriend. If she says yes, RUN AS FAR AS YOU CAN. ok, not literally, but if she says yes, she either has a boyfriend already or she's not interested. If she says no, then there's a chance she'll give you a go.
At that point, just act like her "annoying but protective big brother." If you show too much care for her feelings, you'll come off as needy and desperate for her satisfaction, but if you don't protect her, she won't think you're "boyfriend material." Just balance it out a little, but NEVER go out of your way to satisfy her. It's a hit or miss situation. Either she'll think you're weak because you're trying too hard or she MIGHT end up liking you more, but more likely it'll be a turnoff.
The key is to give her the bait in the beginning... give her a hint that you're into her, but don't let your life revolve around her- or at least don't let her know if it does. The more you push towards her, the more she'll run from you.
You're an independant man who runs his own life and has fun without her. You don't NEED her. If you show neediness, that's a turnoff. If you show too much compassion, that's a turnoff. It's not like you really want to do all that cute stuff anyway, so it all works out for everyone.
Every man should know two things:
-Never show weakness
-A woman's words and her response are often VERY different
When she whines about wanting the nice guy, that's pure BULLCRAP. Don't listen. You already know from experience that it doesn't work, so at this point it means nothing. If she calls you a jerk (in a playful way), you're doing something RIGHT. That means she's liking you more. Women love drama, despite what they logically convey through the words.
Also, just a side note: Don't hang around her if there's nothing to talk about or do with her. That just makes you appear desperate.
The way you walk, talk and respond to the environment all conveys what type of person you are. You always want to have a strong positive image associated with yourself. If you let people insult you without attacking them back, the first thing she thinks is WEAKNESS. When you sacrafice your own well-being to help other people, WEAKNESS. When you show too much care for other people, WEAKNESS. When you talk and whimper off at the end of a sentence in a questionable way, WEAKNESS. Also, don't sugarcoat your words. If something negative is on your mind, go ahead and let it loose. Even if she doesn't agree with it, it shows confidence on your part. Nice guys are afraid of rejection and hurting other people, but bad boys aren't. That's partially what makes bad boys more attractive.
It's important that everything you say and do is done in a confident way. Sometimes you'll have to be a little more selfish than you usually are, but that's OK. It's a fish-eat-fish world out there and only the bigger fish survives. The weak ones are eaten. You can be a winner or a loser, you choose. Women reject weakness in men.
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